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When we get nervous or pushed out of our comfort zones, we make excuses. We make excuses not to love ourselves or to take care of ourselves.  Sometimes it's bad timing because our lives are just too busy, work consumes too much time, and it seems like we always have to drive someone SOMEWHERE. Sometimes it's more important that we spend the time with our spouse. We also use excuses like "I'm going to lose 30 pound first!" or "I just don't have the money right now" or "Who am I kidding, I am not like those women in the pictures".  

I wanted to write this today to show you that no matter the excuse, you CAN do it! You are worthy enough, you are beautiful enough, you are ready enough. And when your 90 year old self is looking at these photographs, she sure won't remember any of the excuses that held you back from doing this in the first place. But you will look at it and say "I lived it well!"

" I don't have enough time for myself"

This is the excuse I am guilty of! We can spend so much time consumed by everything needing attention outside of us. Days turn into weeks. Weeks into months. And months into a decade. We can let an entire decade pass us by only to look back at our younger self and wish we could go back and love ourselves more. Fast forward 10 years from today. Would you regret not giving yourself the same kindness and love you gave everyone else?  Live life without regrets. 

How I start my self love journey was to start with a 30 minute Sunday ritual. I craved out 30 minutes and when I stoped feeling guilty about taking that half hour I added time. Some advice I got at the beginning of my self love journey was "You cannot help others if you on running on empty." It really stuck with me and gave me permission to crave out that half hour. Why treat yourself like your own resources are irrelevant? On a plane they even tell you to serve yourself first in an emergency. 


You can surely carve out half an hour.  Right?  So start there and add to it with time. 

At a boudoir shoot you are able to breath and go inside yourself. Let the world slow down for just a few hours while you honor YOU.  Life will slow down, and you will reconnect with yourself and remember all the things you should love yourself for.  When I photograph you, my camera simply captures  a woman through the eyes of another woman. Another woman with similar experiences in life. You will realize there is no judgement in that moment, no comparison to others. You look at the back of my camera, and you get to see where your beauty really comes from and this lifts such a huge mental weight. 

"I am not where I want to be weight wise/ I don't fit the media's idea of a good enough size"

Did you know that the body type portrayed in advertising as the ideal is possessed naturally by only 5% of American females? 

ONLY FIVE PERCENT. 🤯🤯🤯

I will say this over and over again (and sorry, not sorry if you’ve heard me say it before), but WHY do you have to be a certain size to LOVE yourself? WHY do you have to fit a stranger's messed up idea of a perfect body to LOVE your own body? WHY are you comparing your size to everyone else, when no 2 women are the same!


I think it’s amazing to have goals and want to get healthy, but does that mean you have to hate your body to do those things? Absolutely NOT! You should love yourself every step of the way. Be proud of where you are so that you can be proud of where you’re going.

Have a boudoir shoot to celebrate where you are now, and then have one when you lose those 30 pounds to celebrate how far you’ve come! Imagine if Adele waited all those years to get in shape before she could shine! We would miss out on so much beauty she brings through her work. She was beautiful before and she is beautiful still. Because beauty and sex appeal is all in the attitude that the woman exudes. Confidence is truly sexy and when you're in my studio getting expert posing directions you'll feel confident in a rush you've never felt before. 

"I never feel sexy or sensual anymore so a boudoir shoot must not be for me"

                                                  WRONG.

                    This excuse is actually the EXACT reason you 

                              SHOULD do a boudoir shoot.

Often times we lose touch with our femininity or sexuality when life gets in the way because of health/kids/work. It happens a lot and it is absolutely normal and okay! A great way to find this side of ourselves again is to have a boudoir shoot done to put that spark back in us. I can show you that you have that inside you somewhere, and it might even ignite a spark between you and your spouse as well! Every woman that walks out of my studio (no matter the level of confidence she brought in the first place) feels like she just grew new wings and her posture feels more proud.

Another thing to remember is that you don’t HAVE to wear super sexy clothing/ lingerie. If you feel like this doesn’t show your personality, then there are so many other outfit ideas. If you need ideas, I will gladly talk to you about them or you can check out my blog post on different outfit options.

"A Boudoir shoot is an investment and I don't have all the money right now"

Yes, a boudoir shoot IS an investment. It is also an investment in yourself. You are investing in your well-being and confidence as well! Rest assured I offer different payment plan options to fit your specific needs! In order to book your shoot, there is a booking retainer, and after that, we can set up your payment plan for the remaining so that it might be easier to book a shoot! If you have any questions about payment plans, just let me know you'd need additional accommodations in your email about your session!  

                    Want more information about Boudoir Sessions?

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I sincerely look forward to photographing you! 

~arin

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